Maybe their beloved dog passed, or their father is in the hospital, or they are in the path of a wildfire. You are. But at this point, your ex hopefully has a support system that is not you. Do it if you ended on good terms. Or maybe you just grew up a lot on your bike trip to Mallorca. It will feel very natural to them and they will feel the attraction and connection you build is also natural. This can change depending on your situation, the intensity of the conversations you are having and how often your ex initiates texting.

Makes sense? Just mix it up a bit and keep having interesting conversations with your ex. Slowly, but steadily keep increasing the frequency until they are used to having you text them and they are used to initiate texting. This can easily happen if you are using sarcasm in your messages.

If you feel they are giving you a sign that they still love you or that they want to get back together, check out this article that covers most of the signs your ex may give you.

I understand how you feel. I was selfish and I am sorry for what I did. I feel that you and I both need some more space before we can speak objectively. You can sense that your ex is upset about you not being present when you were supposed to spend quality time with them. You can acknowledge the issue without offering a solution. I actually saw that coming. You are right though. My schedule was all over the place. I wish I had spent more quality time with you when I had the chance.

Live and learn I guess. If the conversation is about to take a negative turn and the issue is serious, then you might want to speak about it in detail. For example,. It seems you have really changed. I hated it that you never gave me space. I almost felt like you want to control everything in my life.

You are right. I did want to control everything around me. I realized my habits were formed when I was a child. I never really felt loved because my parents were always busy with work.

When I fell in love with you and realized you loved me too, I was doing everything in my power to not lose it. I was controlling everything out of fear of losing my love. Anyways, this is too much to talk about via text messages, do you want to get on a call? But before you ask them to do so, you should give them a good reason to believe that you have really changed. And at no point of time you should speak to them about getting back together.

Use the app you know that your ex uses most. Some apps do have an advantage over others, but those advantages are very minor and if you use the strategies laid out in this guide, those advantages will not matter at all. For example, WhatsApp gives you the ability to see if a message has been read by your ex while line and Viber gives you a range of emoticons and animations to choose from.

Almost all the apps today can send Gifs. You can use Gifs to make references to your favorite movies or TV shows. Download Giphy to get access to a lot of Gifs. However, make sure that you use Gifs sparingly and only if your ex responds to them with positively.

Gifs cannot be used to build attraction with your ex. But they are good for an occasional laugh. Your ex is probably expecting a text from you after you broke up with them. But texting them immediately after a breakup is a mistake. You should do no contact before you text your ex. Take some time out for yourself, work on yourself, make some positive changes in your life and make sure that getting back together is the right decision for you. Your first contact with your ex can be in the form of an email, a hand written letter or a text.

You can read the guide on getting your ex back for more details on the email and hand written letter. This guide will focus on how to text your ex after no contact.

You simply use something to make a connection with your ex and say that it reminded you of them. The key to this text is to keep it light hearted. If possible, add a little bit humor. You want them to believe that you are no longer needy or desperate and that you will not really try to talk about getting back together. Hey, I was just walking down the St Johns street and came across that restaurant with amazing Shawarmas.

Reminded me of you and how we went there after watching Avengers. How have you been? Hey, I just watched the latest season of Game of Thrones. You were right. It made me think of you right after I almost cried in excitement.

Anyways, how have you been? Hey, I finally got around to reading the Harry Potter books. I should have read them long time ago. But, hey I got to experience the Hogwarts magic at Speaking of magic, how was your show at the club last night?

One of the easiest way to get someone to feel good about themselves is to ask them for advice. People love to give advice and you can use this to your advantage when you are trying to re-spark attraction with your ex with text messages.

See, how you are taking their permission before asking them the question. This almost guarantees a response from them because they want to know the question. This template is great to get your ex to respond to you.

You totally fly under their radar when you ask them for advice. Hey, my friend just started cooking and he asked me a weird question. I am totally confused. Can I ask you about it? But if you want to experiment, go ahead. I love how you are so good at cooking anything.

And I loved the chili you made for me that day. Where did you learn to make it? Again, come up with better questions than that. I am totally pulling this out from nowhere as I am writing this article and if you use the questions in the above examples, your ex will probably see through them. What if your break up was really bad?

What if you made a lot of mistakes after the breakup? What if you acted needy, desperate, creepy and maybe even stalky? What if you cheated on your ex? What if your ex cheated on you? If you fall in any of the above category, then there is a good chance you will not be able to use any of the first text messages as templates to get back in touch. If the last thing your ex said to you was something along the lines of. I am not obsessed with Jon Snow.

Update: I watched it and I was as disappointed with the last season as most of you. You have to acknowledge the elephant in the room. You have to clean the slate so you can start again.

This is when the Elephant in the room texts come in handy. Note the Elephant in the room text is especially useful if your ex girlfriend is dating a new boyfriend or if your ex boyfriend has moved on to a new girlfriend. Now the Elephant in the room texts need to be unique for every situation. But I have a lot of readers and clients who go through many similar situations. This has given me the opportunity to come up with a lot of templates for the Elephant in the room texts.

You can download this report by clicking here and subscribing to our emails. You probably have read a lot about texting from different articles on the internet. You might have even come across some articles that claim to be the best article on the internet. But if you notice, they will all give you a one size fits all solution to texting your ex girlfriend or ex boyfriend. The truth is, your ex is unique. Your relationship with your ex is unique.

What attraction means to them is unique. What chemistry means to them is unique. What trust means to them is unique. What might work for someone else, will not necessarily work for you. So before you move forward with this, you must understand your ex and what attraction, connection and trust means to them.

You know your ex better than anyone else. What is it that your ex found attractive in you in the first place? Sure, sometimes it is referring to a physical quality of the person. They may be referring to their height, weight, hair color, or skin color. It could have something to do with them being an introvert or an extrovert, or it could have something to do with them being honest and trustworthy. It could have something to do with them being active in sports or the fact that they are an academic.

Different characteristics appeal to different people. You need to find out what are the things that appealed most to your ex and what turned them off. It was amazing and I wish you were there with me. We were surrounded by birds, dense forest and we spent the weekend re-reading Harry Potter for the fifth time and reenacting some scenes from it.

It was amazing and I wish you had been there. Imagine how this would make an introvert feel. You are displaying qualities that you know your ex is attracted to. You are also making your ex imagine what it would have been like being with you and spending time with you. A message like this will earn you some attraction points from an introvert. You should be able to craft messages like this to display positive qualities in you and at the same time making them imagine what it would be like being with you.

But, you must take things slow. And you must be subtle about it. That will definitely make your ex put their defenses back up and make them think you are needy and a doormat.

My aunt got me seats to an NBA game and I figured why not. My friend and I went to the stadium and OMG. This was the best experience ever. And now, I watch all the important games. If anything, your absence draws attention to you even more than your presence and it draws the right kind of attention.

You want to get your ex back, so you are utilizing the most powerful strategy out there to save the relationship by using the no contact rule. Think of all the sacrifices you would be willing to make to get this person back into your life as your lover or significant other.

You would be willing to do painful things, difficult things, self-denying things, tiring things, humiliating things, and the list goes on. The only way for them to learn that is for you to be out of their life and not texting them for a time. Get my Emergency Breakup Kit or my Emergency Marriage Kit to guide you to getting your ex back based on my two decades in the relationship-recovery service. July 23, September 17, June 29, September 17, May 21, September 17, Coach Lee helps people get their ex back after a breakup.

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